"I am 63, and I have slept with 3,000 men" - woman tells her story

Until the age of 28, Marie Calvert had only ever had sex with one man,
her husband Barry. Then she took up swinging and everything changed.
The body count went from 1 to 3,000. In fact, she claims that one
night, she slept with 14 men. Marie, now 63, tells her epic story
below...It was the night I slept with 14 men that I first started to
try to work out how many partners I've been with.

The truth is, I'm not sure. My conservative estimate is about 100
guys a year for more than three decades. I'm 63 now and I've
sloweddown a little – but only a little. Why do I do it? Having sex
isn't something I do for a living, but it is my passion. It's the most
enjoyable, exhilarating, satisfying way to spend your time. Some women
like yoga, some like badminton. I like carnality.I am actually
married. Barry and I have been together since I was 15 – we wed when I
was 19, have two grandchildren, and he's my world. But neither of us
puts sex on a pedestal. We see it for what it is: separate from love.
It's not natural to stick with one sexual partner for 60 years. Life
is about experimenting and experiencing, and that's what we do.
Barrygoes with other women. I don't get jealous because I know heloves
me.

Until the age of 28, I'd only been with him and we had a terrific sex
life, but one day he brought home a swingers' magazine he'd picked up
from a workmate. He sortof joked we should try it; I told him not to
be daft, and he never mentioned it again.But I kept looking at the mag
and imagining how fun it might be. Eventually I told him we should
give it a go. He looked like a kid at Christmas. The first couple we
met – through the listings in that magazine – were university
lecturers in their 40s, and I still remember driving to their home
that Friday. Barry stopped the car and said, "Are we sure about this?"
We were so nervous, but we were also insanely excited. I said we'd try
it once and see how it went. And it went… joyously.As soon as we met
them I was flirting with the guy. John wassophisticated and handsome,
and over dinner there was this intense chemistry.

Afterwards, there were a few minutes when just he and I were in the
living room, and I thought it was now or never so I kissed him, and
that was that. By the time Barry came in with John's wife, we were
otherwise engaged. I remember looking at Barry's face and seeing a
bigsmile come over it; I knew everything would be fine, and that life
had changed for ever.We became committed swingers, spending weekends
meeting up with couples or going to parties to swap partners.Suddenly
everything was exciting. You'd be at work, and you'd think about what
you were up to that evening and it sent a shiver down your spine. Some
couples – like John and his wife – would become close friends, even
when the sex stopped. Others you'd see only once. The night I slept
with 14 men was at a swingers' party in Manchester. I remember driving
there feeling almost uncontrollably lustful. The next day I felt achy,
in that lovely way, like when you've been to the gym.

In 1997, we decided to open a swingers' club in Sheffield. We were fed
up with work and wanted to do something we were passionate about. It's
still thriving today. We never have sex during opening hours – it's
our business and we're professional about it. But, of course, when the
place shuts, we've got an entire club full of facilities – and an
ever-growing circle of open-minded couples – to play with. It's not
all been perfect, of course. Not every lover is attentive. I remember
in my 40s going with an 18-year-old, just to see what it would be
like. Quick was the answer.We're safety-conscious and I've never felt
in any danger. Barry is normally in the same room or not far away.
I've recently had a knee operation, which means I'm walking with a
stick, so I'm taking it easy. I had only three lovers last year. I
still have the same sex drive but I'm more relaxed now. I'm not
someone who's ever going to dress like a woman half her age just to
get attention. But if guys still find me attractive – well, why not?
People ask if we have any regrets and we do – we wish we'd found that
mag five or six years earlier.

Culled from UK Guardian